Today, we have exceeded our natural socializing capacity limits.
The other day, I saw an animal at the zoo and wondered if the pain of animals being seen by so many people day in and day out must be considerable.
I suddenly thought about that.
However, I too am forced to interact with others that I do not want to, and often feel stressed.
This is not so different from the stress that many animals are undergoing.
I couldn’t help but think so.
Our social life involving many people was like an animal caged without knowing it, and we ourselves were exposed to stress and pain.
We are forced to interact with others in educational institutions even before our ego is formed.
And we are taught to give in to surface smiles and peer pressure.
The “yips of the mind” is a virus-infected disease of social peer pressure.
For example, we have all had the experience of forcing a friendly smile in order to avoid ruining a relationship.
There have also been many times when we wanted to say no but could not because we wanted to be a good person.
Especially in Japan, as is well known by the best-selling book “The Japanese Who Can’t Say No”,
There is a marked tendency to suppress oneself without saying what one really feels.
These behaviors are a type of obsession that comes from trying to meet society’s expectations,
It is a typical peer pressure of relationship stress.
And when they exceed a certain limit, allergic reactions appear and become “yips of the mind.
The yips of the mind arise from trying to conform oneself to social expectations.
For example, the same pressures found in the discipline of many organizations, such as “Greetings cheerfully!” and other such peer pressure can make a big difference between those who can do it naturally and those who can’t.
Positive, vivacious people may not have any difficulty at all.
However, it may take a lot of courage for those who are reclusive.
In this way, shy people have been forced to greet others in a loud voice.
To assume that such a person’s inability to speak up is a bad thing,
I believe that this is nothing more than ignoring a person’s character and nature.
In this day and age, when conventional education no longer works, we should look for ways to make the most of this shyness on our own.
It is important to value your time and understand your feelings and thoughts.
Being constantly in the company of others means constant external stress and a tendency to rely on the computational thinking of the cerebrum.
In this state, it is difficult to access one’s primal instincts and overarching abilities.
Therefore, you must attend to your own emotions and, for this reason, value the time you spend not being involved with others.
It is important to protect ourselves from being influenced by others.
Ultimately, our well-being and spiritual health ,
depends on understanding and nurturing ourselves away from external peer pressure.
Already the conventional wisdom of schooling and society has become distorted in today’s diverse world.
That is why it is important to become aware of this for ourselves, to focus on our own time, and to nurture our own abilities.
In other words, you must be your own teacher.
It is cruel, but parents, siblings, and even school teachers can be completely unreliable and even harmful.
Being aware of the journey that leads to “Jibun Sodate” through a deep dialogue with yourself is a step toward surviving the modern jungle.
