People have an instinct to rebel against those closest to them.
That is not a bad thing.
It is also a survival instinct to avoid falling in with them.
Knowing this trait, we know that it is difficult to get good advice from those close to us.
Conversely, it is also difficult for us to send good advice to those close to us.
So when we are trying to transmit a good idea, it is easier to go about it with the feeling that we are communicating it to someone who has not yet been born.
So don’t hesitate to send out messages to “people in the future.”
I think that will be kinder to ourselves and our families and not put pressure on us.
The instinct to rebel against those close to you in a relationship is, in a sense, a self-protection mechanism.
This sense of repulsion tends to be stronger in closer relationships, causing people to be less receptive to opinions and criticism.
A prominent example is when parents and children do not listen to each other.
When asked separately why, the parent and the child say, “They don’t listen.”
The parents and the children are not listening to each other.
This means that they are not listening to the other person and insist that the other person should listen to them first.
This is thought to be because the opinions of those close to them are so influential that they have a defensive instinct.
This defensive instinct has its good side, but it also has its bad side.
For example, if you are creative and you are trying to mature your ideas, you ask those close to your partner or parents for their opinions.
Most of the time, you get negative feedback.
- It sounds difficult.
- I’ve heard this idea before. Maybe it’s impossible because it already exists.
- I wonder if it’s realistic.
The conversation rarely turns into a positive and lively one, and I think we have all had the experience of regretting not talking about it.
So, we tend to be a solitary activity.
On the other hand, asking questions to people far away from you has the advantage of avoiding such a direct sense of repulsion.
Have you ever experienced a heartwarming message from someone across the Internet whom you have somehow never met?
Sending messages to such invisible people allows you to express yourself openly. It also allows you to be open to those who are far away from you, in the hope that they will find you.
Today, with the spread of the Internet, it has become possible to easily transmit messages to the whole world, which has fundamentally changed our mental connections.
This environment has greatly lowered the barriers to self-expression and the sharing of ideas, and has become a fertile ground for creativity and innovation.
Using this method, we can present our work efficiently and get feedback.
However, even transmission to distant people can sometimes be met with unreserved and intense negative opinions.
As we all know, everyone knows that there are violent reactions that take advantage of anonymity.
You will be abused to pieces by strangers, and your image will be exposed to all kinds of people.
No matter how strong you are, there is no way you can stay calm.
The mute function has been developed in recent social networking services, so it seems that the only way to get around this is to use technology to deal with it.
Fuji, which is said to be beautiful, but when you climb it, you will find that it is full of garbage.
Either way, the transmission to those currently living is,
Advantage・・・Profit
Disadvantage・・・flames
The risk of being burned is always present.
It may be better to be cool about it and keep your distance from them.
And, it may be a good idea to get messages from the books of great people who have already left this world, or to talk to people in the future who have not yet been born.
People who don’t exist can’t be hurt you in real life.
